FIGHTING VS ARGUING
When you have a conflict with your partner you may refer to it as a fight. We don’t mean fisticuffs; we mean a verbal fight. Other times we say we had an argument. Do they mean the same thing or are they different? They are different. In a fight someone has to win. In an argument, there is no goal to win, the goal is for both parties to listen.
HOW TO AVOID FIGHTING
First, acknowledge that there is a conflict and embrace it. Conflicts are not negative; in fact, they are opportunities to improve relationships. If they get ignored, resentment can poison the relationship. See it as an opportunity for both of you to resolve something. After practicing as a couple, you will look forward to resolving issues while building trust in one another. Define the issue and the outcome you want. Set a specific time to discuss. Sometimes it is best to let things cool down. Later in the day is best, you don’t want these issues to go unresolved overnight. These are only three tips. If you want more, check out 13 Rules for Fair and Healthy Fighting in Relationships.
HOW TO ARGUE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Conflicts are healthy, embrace them and look forward to resolving them. The key for both sides is listening. When you are both actively listening, it doesn’t feel like a fight—because it stops being a fight if both parties are listening. Remember, there are issues on both sides that need to be resolved. Blame is not the goal. Sure, there may be some responsibility on either or both sides—but that is very different from blame. Seek opportunities to accept responsibility and acknowledge your role.
BE MINDFUL OF THE MOMENT
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